An LGBTQ family’s inspiring story of building a loving home,
with lessons all families can use
When Trystan Reese
was just a year into his relationship with Biff (now his husband),
the couple learned that Biff’s niece and nephew were about to be
removed from their home by Child Protective Services. Immediately,
Trystan and Biff took in one-year-old Hailey and three-year-old
Lucas, becoming caregivers overnight to two tiny survivors of abuse
and neglect.
From this surprising
start, Trystan and Biff built a loving marriage and happy
home—learning to parent on the job. They adopted Hailey and Lucas,
and soon decided to grow their family biologically with a child that
Trystan, who is transgender, would carry. Trystan’s groundbreaking
pregnancy attracted media fanfare, and the family welcomed baby Leo
in 2017.
In How We Do
Family, Trystan shares their unique story and what he’s learned
about being the best parent, partner, and person you can be. Through
crisis, adoption, pregnancy—and all the usual challenges of
parenting—Trystan shows that more important than getting things
right is doing them with love.
